Kate & Dean [Part 1 of 2]: Sex, Shame & Broken Trust
Update: 2025-10-30
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Description
Many years and two children later, Kate and Dean's marriage is teetering on the edge of separation. In this session, Sarah attempts to help Kate and Dean navigate the foundational rupture that broke the trust between them, and the layers of sexual boundaries, shame, and disconnection that have piled up on top of them.
Can Kate and Dean finally heal their relationship and rediscover love, appreciation and respect? Or is it time for them to walk away?
Listen to the second part of Kate & Dean's session here
Resources (Australia-only)
- 1800RESPECT: The national domestic, family, and sexual violence counselling, information, and support service.
- Beyond Blue: For support with anxiety, depression, and suicide prevention.
- Lifeline Australia: For 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services.
- Motivated Minds: Learn more about host Sarah Bays’ practice.
- Relationships Australia: A leading provider of relationship support services for individuals, families, and communities.
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